| First, I would like to mention that each item listed | | | | 8. You should participate in the house duties. |
| below are not in any particular order. They are all | | | | However, only do what you are capable of, don't |
| essential elements to being a good husband or | | | | do something that you are going to mess up. |
| boyfriend. | | | | Some easy duties would be vacumming, dishing, |
| 1. Pay attention to your woman. This means, | | | | or taking out the trash. Try to make these things |
| undivided attention. Include eye contact and verbal | | | | a regular routine, so that she doesn't have to do |
| prompts to let her know you are listening. | | | | them. |
| 2. Be a good listener. That means actually hear | | | | 9. **THIS IS A BIG ONE** Avoid looking at other |
| what she is saying, because she may bring the | | | | women in front of your woman. This is commonly |
| topic up again. In addition, if the topic is about you, | | | | perceived as disrespect. Plus, it's can affect her |
| you need to see if you can fix/solve whatever | | | | self-esteem or self-image. She may think that |
| problem/issue she is referring to. | | | | she's not appealing to you. To assist yourself in |
| 3. Pamper your woman. By pampering I mean | | | | this action, don't look at other women when your |
| running her bath water (you may bath her, but | | | | woman is not around. This allows you to get in |
| some women don't like to be wasted), pay for | | | | the practice of not looking. It is common for men |
| her nails and hair to be done. (These are only | | | | to look out of habit. |
| some examples, creativity is the key.) | | | | 10. *THIS IS ANOTHER BIG ONE* Control your |
| 4. Write small notes and leave them in common | | | | inner urges. Be self-disciplined and able to retrain |
| areas where she will see them. The notes should | | | | your inner feelings for action. Your hormones. This |
| be compliments or cute messages to her (ie. I | | | | will help from you not getting upset and showing |
| love you, you are beautiful, have a nice day, etc.). | | | | it, when she isn't in the mood. Which in turn will |
| You can also send text messages that will have | | | | avoid conflict. |
| the same effect. Love letters are great. And if | | | | 11. As a man you should be able to admit when |
| you have that artistic side, write poems. | | | | you're wrong. This should be self-explanatory. |
| 5. Buy her gifts. The size and cost of the gifts | | | | 12. You should be committed to resolving |
| aren't important components, unless she is | | | | differences. Solutions to problems helps to keep |
| materialistic. But random gifts are attention getting | | | | peace. If problems aren't resolved, then they will |
| agents, which show her that you care and love | | | | keep arising as an issue for discussion/argument. |
| her. In addition, it will make her feel special and | | | | 13, Finally, remember that love is a series of |
| appreciated. | | | | actions such as: patience, tolerance, endurance, |
| 6. Take your woman out. Each woman is | | | | sacrifice, etc. Love also gives off a by--product or |
| different as to what she likes, but some | | | | side--effect which is an emotional feeling. Many |
| examples would be: dinner, lounge, dancing, | | | | people mistaken the side--effect/ emotional |
| movies, museums, festivals, etc. | | | | feeling as love. For further definitions of love, |
| 7. Cook for your woman. Generally speaking the | | | | refer to your spiritual or religious manuals/books |
| woman does majority of the cooking, if not all. | | | | (ie. bible). |
| So, sometimes it would be a relief as well as a | | | | In closing, I believe that if you apply these simple |
| surprise to cook for her. You don't have to be a | | | | 13 elements to your relationship, you will be a |
| chef, you could make simple meals like breakfast | | | | great husband or boyfriend. Love is the most |
| in bed, or meals that are already made that just | | | | important element, because when you love |
| need to be heated. However, if you use meals | | | | someone it will be easier to implement the other |
| that are already made, I would suggest that you | | | | elements. Thanks for reading and I wish you the |
| make the dining table and light some canddles to | | | | best. |
| make it more romantic or appealing. | | | | |